Ephesians 4:29-32 (ESV) Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths. If only our tongues were not the wayward beasts set ablaze and out of control, imagine if our words were under the control of God’s Spirit and not the rebellious heart and mind of mankind (and woman-kind). If the door could be slammed shut and the hurtful, ugly and worthless words swallowed up from whence they came but that’s just not how it works now is it? Oh for the reckless, careless tirades if only could be taken back. Images erased from those who received them and now dwell on the hurtfulness which is becoming bitterness. Using only a vocabulary to encourage, build up, fit for every occasion and full of grace to the listener, it is the desire of God for us to communicate in such a way that builds the Kingdom rather than tearing it apart person by person.
Proverbs 18:20-21 (ESV) From the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach is satisfied; he is satisfied by the yield of his lips. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
It says that “death and life are in the power of the tongue” and I believe that wholeheartedly. Sticks and stones will break bones but I also am convinced that words penetrate much deeper. People survive broken bones but some cannot survive a broken heart. Relationships, once strong, can be eroded by careless communication and unfiltered anger. Robust outbursts that feel so right and relevant at the time are meaningless when our partner, loved one, friend, coworker, or whoever are hurt beyond repair. What is the fruit of your lips today? I must consider mine. It is important. I was cooking dinner. Our new diet requires quite a few fresh vegetables. Though I stopped by the store, I did not purchase any because there were plenty in the fridge. However, as I pulled the packages out to prepare them for our meal, I noticed that some of them were going bad. The ones clearly soft and gross that touched others were causing them to rot, too. I ended up throwing away several packages because one vegetable went bad and corrupted the whole pack. Can we learn from this? Absolutely. The one bad vegetable did not intend to destroy the rest but it happened as its inward condition began to manifest outwardly and contaminated them all. The fruit of our lips can have the same effect. Whether intentional or not, they can pierce the heart and soul of another quickly adding our toxicity to their thoughts, feelings and emotions. I want my words to give others life. The life I have thanks to Jesus Christ has the potential by faith to produce good fruit in me that will become the offering of my lips if only I pay attention.
From the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach is satisfied; he is satisfied by the yield of his lips. Proverbs 18:21 is the popular and well-known verse. However, God always has a promise to us in our faithful stewardship to others. Our words will satisfy our own soul first. As the soul prospers, so do we. The abundance of fruit that pours from our lips is not a fake fruit but the productivity of authentic faith. By allowing God’s Spirit to filter every single word through the Truth of His Word, the Light of His Love, and the Hope of His Glory – suddenly those unnecessary banters and tirades are softened to swallow. Being right becomes a little less important when righteousness is highly sought after. God wants to bless you. He has a purpose and promise that will meet its full potential and exceed the perceived abundance in your mind when you choose to say what He says about you, to you and for you and then decide to communicate His Message to the world.
Matthew 12:34-37 (ESV) You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil. I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Our words are evidence of what the heart truly believes. Good people can say good things, but godly people only say good things like good fruit. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good. Jesus warns us explicitly that our words are a prime indicator of the condition of our heart. I know that when I am angry, hurt, frustrated and tired the thoughts circling in my head will form words that I cannot take back if released. I am learning to discipline my heart and mind to take those rebellious thoughts and smash them along with my pride to close my mouth tight. As they cannot to try to stir up a fire in my, I ask the Holy Spirit to stomp them out before they flare up again. It is not easy. I am not always successful. God gave us His Grace so there is always enough to share with others. True believers say, “I’m sorry” and mean it. Pride tells us the person deserved it or it was their fault. Humble hearts understand that it doesn’t matter what the other person does because my life – mind, soul, body and yes, even my tongue – belongs to Jesus Christ. End of story.
Lord, close the door to my mouth and prevent any offensive thing from spilling out of it. Teach me only to speak life and love to others. Help me to effectively communicate your love, grace, joy, peace and hope to others because what I think about other things really doesn’t matter. Humble me, God. Help me to filter every single word for kindness, relevance and truth not according to my standard but raised to Your Standard. In Jesus Name…
Proverbs 10:11-12 (ESV) The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence. Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.