Get It Together

Get It Together

Romans 12:3-5 (ESV)  For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.

One body. One Spirit. One church. Oh, so many members. The human body has many components that somehow can figure out how to work together in one fluid movement. Our brain tells our organs how to function, our limbs to work in unison, and somehow there is a coordinated effort it all work together. A handicap is when there is a component of the body not properly functioning according to its original design. The word “handicap” means a disadvantage. It makes success more difficult. It is considered a disability or burden to the bearer. It creates a challenge to the proper function of that which it impairs. To some this word is considered offensive. I mean nothing of the sort. Our body was designed by God to function a certain way. Sin introduced certain disadvantages that Christ has overcome. The Body of Christ suffers certain handicaps that the Spirit works in us to overcome. I am encouraged today that I serve the Living God who gives resurrection power and life to all His People.

Acts 2:42-47 (ESV) And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common. And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.

Everything created by God works in the realm of relationships. Even our bodies were designed with many members and one brain that works together. Right down to cellular regeneration within us, everything has a purpose in the grand scheme of our natural bodies. When a part of the body is not fully functioning, it may be considered disabled or handicapped. If our immune system is not successful in overcoming an attack, our body becomes sick or infirmed. If an organ ceases to function, life is compromised by the adverse condition. This is all in the natural AND spiritual realm of relationships. Our body’s ability to coordinate all its members into a fully functioning operation is what perpetuates and propels us through life. We are not only a physical body but a member of the Body of Christ.

Within our participation as a Child of God, believer and even Christian – we are part of a body. We have a purpose and place within the Body of Christ meant specifically for us. I have five children. Two boys and three girls. Each one has a special place in my heart and in our family design. It would be ridiculous to think that if something happened to one of them that it would be okay because we have four other children. There is no such thing as collateral damage in a household. If a family member passes, they will be missed. It will create a void. It should be so in the Body of Christ. He is a Good Shepherd. He will leave the ninety-nine to find the one who is lost. We must learn to place value and worth on the Body of Christ that we belong to. It is vital to our successful prosperity in life. To be a fully functioning member produces the promises of God not only in our life but for those around us in relationship with us, too.

The early church came together. They became a body. A functioning unit that added to the Kingdom daily. They spent every day in close fellowship with one another. None too busy or self-involved, these believers experienced miracles, signs and wonders as God’s Power flowed through them. His Breath is life to us. When we breathe together, it becomes a source of power. God loves unity. Harmony is precious anointing that He is ready to pour out over the Body of Christ. Are we ready to receive it?

Romans 12:9-13 (ESV) Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.

In Romans 12, the believer is encouraged to become a living sacrifice. To live a holy and acceptable life that promotes a fully functioning body. It is called worship. We must not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of our mind. Hence the war of self begins. It is human nature to survive. Yet, we are called to thrive. No one will prosper if they are not willing to invest. There is no return where there is no investment. It’s Biblical for a man cannot reap what he has not sown. With this in mind, to become a living sacrifice means something must be fully surrendered. To say, I surrender all means nothing if not accompanied by change. Sacrifice is not generally a comfortable effort but completely worthwhile endeavor.

I am led a ladies small group the other night. I am challenged to do so. Women are tough when it comes to relationships. I should know… I am one. However, I know that God desires us all to maintain healthy, loving and trusting relationships with those around us. We struggle because of past experiences. Trust forsaken is tough to recover. Yet we must find a way to overcome our differences, and forge strong bonds together to see the Body of Christ become healthy again. To see a Body fit for our soon and coming King!

Let love be genuine.

I Corinthians 13 lays out the guidelines of God-like love and commitment that characterizes genuine. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. This is genuine love. This is the love that God places in us and is the kind of love that He wants us to have for others. Lord, let my love be genuine.

Abhor what is evil.

I Timothy 6:11-12 (ESV) But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness. Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called and about which you made the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.

We must flee from evil. Do not entertain it. Our minds are like sponges the things we permit to remain will assert dominance in us. You cannot love God and love sin at the same time. There is no meeting of the minds when it comes to the Goodness of God and every kind of evil. We must learn from God’s Word what He defines as the sin that defiles us and permit the Holy Spirit to change our mind from loving sin to loving God more than sin. This is how we combat evil in us. Our flesh wants to live. It wages war against the Spirit. There will be no unity in the Body of Christ if each member seeks its own way and allows sin to have dominance in their life. The word “abhor” is a strong verb. It means to regard with extreme repugnance or aversion. To detest and loathe something. Sin is rampant in our world. Violence at an all time high. Love has grown cold and there is complete disregard for others. Lord, show me the sin and evil in me and around me. Teach me to abhor it as much as you do!

Hold fast to what is good.

God is good. He is always good. No matter what is happening around you He is still good and His Goodness is for you. It doesn’t matter your present conditions or situation. God is still good. His Unfailing Love and Goodness are pursuing you. On those days when nothing is going right, Lord I challenge me to still sing, “You are good!”

Love one another with true affection.

We are all members of one body. Mic drop. The first commandment is to love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and body. The only other one is to love others. Loving one another is non-negotiable. By choosing to remain offended and unforgiving, we are the ones who are limited. Love is expendable and thereby expands into full satisfaction and inexpressible joy, not in its reproduction or reciprocation, but as the Lord fills more and more of our heart with His Love.

Outdo one another showing honor.

Comparison is a joy killer. I need my right and left hand equally to type these words to you each day. My left and right hand are both appendages but they do not fight for superiority. They were created with a job to do and they do it seemingly unaware of the other hand doing essentially the exact same thing. The Word of God tells us who we are in Jesus Christ and promises to make us a new creation in our abiding relationship with Him. My purpose and promises are not your purposes and promises – this is not a competition for the Father’s Love. We care brothers and sisters in Christ with an equal proportioned inheritance. It already belongs to us. There is nothing to do but remain in a righteous relationship through Jesus to secure it. Lord, help me to look for my value and worth in Your Word. There is no competition. Hands down! I have victory in You!

Do not be slothful in zeal.

Praise the Lord! No seriously! We have to live in a constant state of praise and worship to maintain life in His Presence. It creates enthusiasm in our spirit person when the Holy Spirit responds to the close proximity of God. The Lord inhabits the praise of His People. Get excited. Stir up the Gift of God within you. You have every reason to celebrate even on your worst day knowing that all things work together for your good!

Be fervent in Spirit.

Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom. Jesus Christ has given you His Spirit. Resurrection power and life live in you. The Holy Spirit is our helper. Teacher. Mentor. Guide for life. Utilize this power gift imparted to you by God through His Son – Jesus.

Serve the Lord.

Wow! This fell so far down the list. Love. Be loved. Finally, we come to service. Serving God must be precipitated by a deep and abiding relationship of love for Him and other people. We owe no man anything but love. To serve God we must be lovers.

Rejoice in hope.

The hope that has been given to us never leads to disappointment.

Be patient in tribulation.

Tests and trials are temporary. Do not make permanent decisions based on temporary circumstances. If I break a toe, I am not likely to cut it off.

Be constant in prayer.

Communication with God is essential to maintain a right relationship with Him.

Contribute to the needs of others.

The blessings in my life are not just for me. God provides seed to the sower. He gives to us in the name of generosity so we can pour it out on others. The Body of Christ needs each member to become united. To live looking after one another so the Body will thrive again. The fractured, dysfunctional unit presented to the world today does not offer anything any different than another group of people. Where is the power? Where is the difference? What happened to the Light? Why aren’t we salty anymore? Could it be that rather than considering God and His Purpose to love others – that we have become lost in ourselves?

Seek to show hospitality.

Church of the Living God and Members of the Body of Jesus Christ, I am challenged today. I am moved in my heart and soul that we need to get it together. God has set forth characteristics for Christian believers. One thing is clear. It is not about me. Or you for that matter… It is all about Jesus. His Body is hurting, broken and fragmented. I can do nothing other than be sure that my “member” is ready. I must examine my own heart. I must allow the Holy Spirit to change my mind. I must remove myself from the throne of self and put Jesus back in His Rightful Place. The early church was exciting. Charismatic. There were signs, wonders and miracles. Life was a party in the midst of terrible tribulation. They were murdered for believing back then yet risked it all to be together as one. What will you give up to assemble the Body of Christ again? What am I willing to sacrifice for unity? We have to get this together before Jesus comes for us. We must put aside our differences and find commonality and community in Christ.

I Peter 3:8-9 (ESV) Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.


Under One Roof

Under One Roof

Ephesians 1:23 (NLT) And the church is his body; it is made full and complete by Christ, who fills all things everywhere with himself.

There is something about having our children together under one roof. Even though there is chaos to just be together enriches my soul and fills my heart to overflowing capacity. Last night, we have the privilege of our oldest daughter spending the night with us. Sitting around the table at a local Mexican restaurant, the girls were chatting and my husband had that look. The smile that effortlessly creeps across his face when his girls are with him. There is something about daddies and their little girls. Even though the group around the table are far from small anymore. Our oldest daughter is great with child in her last trimester of pregnancy. Our middle daughter graceful and beautiful even in a t-shirt, athletic shorts and hair put up in a messy bun has become a woman right in front of us. Where has time gone? In a week, our baby girl, the last to join our large family will be driving a car as her fifteenth birthday comes and goes. God has blessed us with this group. Our boys are now men building families and careers. How does it all happen so quickly? I cherish these moments and times like this when I can enjoy these kids that once had me running in five different directions.

Two people came together with the commitment to love each other no matter what. Now close to twenty years later, look what love has done. It wasn’t always easy. We are a blended family. My new husband and I brought a handful home from the church on our wedding day. God took two empty lives and filled them to capacity with love. There were days when the commitment to God and each other held us all together. He did it. Now our next generation will soon arrive. The connection of family is important. It is worth the cost of love, grace and forgiveness that is required. How often we allow insignificant things to breach the bond that God has instituted? Thoughtless words or careless actions cause offense to root in human hearts as pride tells us that we somehow in our imperfection still deserve better. Families have been under attack since the first one was created in Genesis. We belong to individual families; but it is only a fragment of our true family.

The Body of Christ is a family or at least it is supposed to resemble one. With many members, there is but one unified body that should work together to be unified. I wonder if it brings the Father the same joy it brings my husband when all of his “kids” work together, enjoy each other, share with one another, and long to be together. I’ll let you in on a little secret. Our family doesn’t always enjoy peaceful harmony. My girls can be arguing over a borrowed shirt one minute and helping each other pick out tomorrow’s fashion statement the next. But let another person come against one of my children, and you must contend with the tribe. They will circle wagons and turn on you with a vengeance. There are little insecurities in the heart of our youngest at the thought of a new baby arriving soon. She has always been the baby. She sometimes feels forgotten as we gush over movement in our daughter’s belly or talk about when the little man arrives. It is foolish to think she would lose her place among us but in her heart it is real. These are little things the Family of God encounters although the Word of God says that we are “made full and complete by Christ.”

Romans 12:9-10 (NLT) Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.

Love is a commitment. I have tried to vehemently express this to each of my children in their relationships and preparing one day to be married. Love as the world knows it is not real love. It is based on emotions and feelings. It requires reciprocation. It is conditional. God’s Love for us and in us is not like that. It is defined as “patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” Love never fails.

To “love with genuine affection and take delight in honoring each other” takes hard work, motivation and concentration. You can fall in love but you will not remain in love without a commitment to love. God is love. Our identity in God must be characteristic of love to unite the family of God as instructed. Not just to love the lovable, but to love our enemies as well. It is a pure and true love based on how God loves us not how people do. Romans 12 begins with a plea to give our life as a “living sacrifice” and then goes on to tell us to love each other, honor each other and bless one another and more…

Romans 12:14-18 (NLT) Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.

The Christ in us allows us to love others unconditionally. There is freedom in such love because it casts out all fear. The fear that breeds insecurity. The kind that allows unbelief to flourish in doubt and choke out the new faith that is growing inside of us. We are to be a representation of Jesus Christ to others. We must not expect others to be our Savior or allow them to reign as Lord. This is evidenced in our ability to love and be loved despite human imperfection, betrayal, and offense never allowing bitterness to disturb the newfound love growing in us as our relationship with Christ makes us one.

Ephesians 2:4-6 (NLT) Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one Spirit, just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is over all, in all, and living through all.

There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is over all, in all, and living through all. My body houses the Holy Spirit. The Spirit of the Living God who identifies me as His Child. The same Spirit that unites me with every other living breathing human who God created with purpose and promise. He is Father to us all. The Spirit lives in those who have taken their place in God’s Family by a choice to be reconciled to the family. Estrangement from God because of sin gives way to reconciliation by accepting Christ to be our Savior. His Grace is enough to give us access to the Kingdom and our rightful place in the Body of Christ. We are all unique. There is no competition and God has no favorites. Our desire to be one with Christ which leads to repentance keeps us unified with His Body that completes us so that we can give our life away recklessly. This allows us to take on the Character of Jesus Christ who is humble, gentle, patient, and forgiving. This is not a human trait. Pride hates these attributes and fights to reject them in our life. It is His Spirit who allows us to become like the Lord by producing good fruit in fertile and broken hearts.

As I mentioned before, though my children may bicker and pick on each other, if anyone comes against them they instantly become a unified front. A few years ago, while I was caring for our son who was undergoing cancer treatment, I got a call from my oldest daughter. Someone was bullying her younger sister in middle school and she was really mad. She called to tell me that she was on her way to confront the girl and do something that were less godly to her. I reminded her that she would be arrested for assault but at that moment she did not care. She continued to vent while I listened with a grin on my face. Someone was picking on her sister and she was ready to fight. She finally calmed down and chose only to stare the girl down. The bully and my daughter are still friends today.

What would happen if the Body of Christ became protective of relationships? What if we decided to become one family? I live in the South. There are churches on every corner, in just about every strip mall, and even small groups in homes. Why so many? There are some churches being planted, but it seems that most of them are products of disagreement. Someone gets upset and spreads their discontentment. People choose sides and suddenly a molecular split occurs. I cannot imagine how this breaks the heart of God who gave His Son, His Only Son, to bring His Children back under one roof.

We must make the decision to agree. To find common ground in Christ, and stop being led by emotions and feelings contradictory to those given to us by His Spirit. Just like a family, the Body of Christ must make the commitment to stop allowing fear, insecurity and offense to be the guidelines for their life and overcome them with the Love of God that gets rid of such nonsense. There will be disagreements. There will be hurt feelings, disappointments, unmet expectations and failed attempts in human relationships. When we allow the Love of God to be our response rather than reacting to the imperfection of humans it will produce the kind of love that will produce unity in the Body of Christ once again.

Is your family coming home for the holidays? Will all of your children gather around the Christmas tree? I find no greater joy than when our family is able to worship together in the House of God. Imagine what the Father would experience if all of His Children gathered together under one roof labeled Jesus Christ. Choosing to put aside personal feelings and accept perfect love, joy and peace from our Living Breathing Source of Life and Hope. It would change the impact of the church. Functioning as one body, the church would become effective. Salt would become salty again. The Light would reach the darkest corners of the lost and dying world. Imagine the Glory that would pour out in our services when Jesus was the Center of it all. Last night my husband slept like a baby, just the thought of all his girls under one roof. He woke up with the same look on his face. I wonder if the Father smiles when we get it together…of course, He does!

Psalm 133 (NLT) How wonderful and pleasant it is when brothers live together in harmony! For harmony is as precious as the anointing oil that was poured over Aaron’s head, that ran down his beard and onto the border of his robe. Harmony is as refreshing as the dew from Mount Hermon that falls on the mountains of Zion. And there the Lord has pronounced his blessing, even life everlasting.

Kind Words

Kind Words

Proverbs 16:24 (NLT) Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.


Our family is quite sarcastic. There is no other way to put it. Always jabbing and poking with words not in malice thought to be in jest, but as I grow older I am learning that such communication holds tiny prongs that stick in the heart of others. It seems innocent at first. Maybe it is my age talking or perhaps I am becoming more like my grandmother day by day who would insist we stop picking at one another even in play because the words hurt her heart so. When my children begin to say negative things about one another even just joking around, I find that it hurts my heart as I begin to wonder if there is any truth to their banter. They insist they are only kidding but I wonder. I think sometimes the enemy convinces us that anything in fun is okay, but if it is at the expense of another is it really ok?

Kind words are like honey. Our words hold power. They are established by the Breath of God that runs through every single human being ever created – believer or not. When we speak something enough – it will happen. What are we saying? One day we will be held accountable for every “idle” word that we speak (Matthew 12:36) including those we did not mean or when we were only goofing around. That is a scary thought for talkers like me who cannot keep their mouth shut. I do believe that the Lord looks at the intent of our heart when we say such things but I also believe that we must be accountable for our words and that begins in our heart.

Luke 6:45 (NLT)
A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.


The words of our mouth give evidence of the contents of our heart. When my children begin to one up each other, I become concerned about their love for one another. Joking and jabbing one another, it is inevitable that somebody’s feelings will get hurt and suddenly what started as innocent fun has injured another. It is not intentional but the wound left behind is real. Words do hurt other people. They can kill a relationship. The greatest commandment is to love one another. We must protect our connection with the people in our life. God has called us to love even our enemies. Our heart should project love in our words along with our actions. “You know I love you” is not what this world needs but a corporate agreement between our words and deeds. “What you say flows from what is in your heart.”

Though most of my life as been spent estranged from my biological mom, I do remember one thing that she taught me. She was always talking about the power of words. Don’t say anything you will regret because you cannot take it back. Once released it will never be retracted. She believed that you should never say anything that you do not mean. She instilled this in me early one. When you are mad, consider your words carefully. When you make a promise, think about it first. I am not sure where this came from in her life but it was important to her. It is biblical even if she didn’t know it. It came from her heart. My mom was abused by her parents secondary to alcoholism. She had no self-esteem. She did not hear kind words from her mom and dad. They were not very nice when they were drinking which reverberated through all of their children even impacting their grandchildren. There are no solid relationships in the family. Words are important. They are the glue that binds our relationships along with our actions. They should always agree.

John 1:1-5 (MSG)

The Word was first, the Word present to God, God present to the Word. The Word was God, in readiness for God from day one. Everything was created through him; nothing—not one thing!—came into being without him. What came into existence was Life, and the Life was Light to live by. The Life-Light blazed out of the darkness; the darkness couldn’t put it out.

Jesus is the Word of God. Reading ahead in the chapter, He is the Word wrapped in human flesh to demonstrate the Power of God’s Love so we could see it, feel it and know it firsthand. The Breath of God that began humanity was filled with Jesus. Hard to imagine as a person who knows only flesh. But it is this living, breathing spirit inside of us that allows us to know God and identify with His Person who is intangible in so many ways. I experience God in my everyday life. I encounter Him regularly. With each breath, I have the potential to take this amazing gift and release Him into the world. But do I?

I Peter 3:8-12 (MSG)

Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, and be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless—that’s your job, to bless. You’ll be a blessing and also get a blessing. Whoever wants to embrace life and see the day fill up with good, here’s what you do: Say nothing evil or hurtful; Snub evil and cultivate good; run after peace for all you’re worth. God looks on all this with approval, listening and responding well to what he’s asked; but he turns his back on those who do evil things.


My job in this life is to bless others. Never curse them or cause them distress. I should be agreeable, sympathetic, loving, compassionate, and humble which means even when someone does not show me the same respect – I keep doing what my Father showed me. No exceptions and no retaliation. Ooh there it is – no sarcasm. Bless…be a blessing…get a blessing. We must fill our day with good things and that comes from our mouth most of the time since we can do nothing apart from Christ our words must continually agree with Him. To do good means saturating this world in the Love of God given to us through Christ Jesus. Jesus is the Word. The Word tells us to love one another. Our words wrap around a heart and either bring it back to life or suffocate it completely. God is listening to our words and then looking at our heart to see our intentions. What does He see? It is important to evaluate each word we speak and compare it to the Word.

Ephesians 4:30-32 (MSG)

Don’t grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted. Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.

I know the family dinner table conversation will still have entertaining moments. I don’t think the Lord is telling us to stop joking with one another or having some fun with each other. I think the reminder for us all here is to be gatekeepers of our words. Evaluate them carefully before we release them into the world. To look inside our own heart and listen to what we say to always be a blessing. The dynamics of our family have changed dramatically in the last few years. I wonder if now that there are only four of us left around the dinner table that the words of our conversation seem louder than before. Maybe the intended target is clearer now that there are just two kids still at home with us. Or perhaps God is revealing a new avenue of blessing for us all to enter in. We grieve God when we are not kind to one another. That is definitely something to think about. We are His Children as evidenced by the Presence of His Spirit inside of us. We have the power and potential to change the way we communicate for the Glory of God. We have His Word and His Spirit which can change the content of each word spoken from the heart. I know poking at each is fun. I am the first to jump in but now that I know when we go too far or maybe anywhere at all in such talk that we grieve our Father it is time to change things up just a bit. We must be gentle with one another and sensitive at all times in every situation even those that seem like lighthearted fun.

Psalm 145:16-18 (NLT)

When you open your hand, you satisfy the hunger and thirst of every living thing. The Lord is righteous in everything he does; he is filled with kindness. The Lord is close to all who call on him, yes, to all who call on him in truth.

When we speak our words have the Power of Life hidden in them. Jesus is life. He lives in us. Rivers of living water flow from those who love and serve the Lord. He gives us this supply for ourselves AND to share with others. We must see others the way that Jesus does and speak to the potential of each person. This begins in our homes. Sometimes we must call “timeout” and remind each other of the power of our words and lasting mark they leave on others. It is easy to become caught up in the moment but the words we speak hold too much power to be tossed around like a loaded gun. We must examine them and keep them in good working order. We should keep the safety on until we are sure the intended target and efficiency of our aim. God has given us great power when we asked His Son to be our Savior and Lord. We must use it effectively and responsibly beginning with our words starting with our heart and home! Our words can change today and build a better tomorrow. They can break generational curses and make lasting relationships. Words used rightly are good. They are sweet to the soul! They are health for our body! I will use kind words.

Psalm 116:5 (NLT) How kind the Lord is! How good he is! So merciful, this God of ours!

The Perfect Father

The Perfect Father

Psalm 103:13 (NLT)

The Lord is like a father to his children tender and compassionate to those who fear him.


Today is the day set aside to honor dad! Thankfully my father is still living and just turned 70 years old. Where has the time gone? I am blessed to have a wonderful father and husband in my life who is an excellent father to our children…all of them. My father and my husband have blended families and become fathers to the fatherless. I love that quality in both of them to take in and love children who may not have been biologically their own but became their heart. I believe this to be a God-like quality in both of them. I see my sons as potential fathers thanks to the influence of the “dad” that took them on. Who decided to love them without being told or forced but accepted the challenge and oh can boys be a challenge! The Lord is like a father to His Children tender and compassionate…” I love this quality in God the Father. I see it in these two mighty men of God who I love.

It is important to accept God as our father you know. It positively impacts and empowers our relationships with our earthly fathers, step-fathers and father-like figures in our life. God is perfect. He is the Flawless Father and most Devoted Dad. There is no one who loves us the way that God loves us. His Extravagant Love for His Children is fathomless. You cannot comprehend it or imagine it which makes it hard to understand its unfailing and unending quality and quantity. So in life, we look for the love that comes with the eternity in our heart in people beginning with our fathers and mothers. It is well-noted that in the majority of cases mom’s stick around but there are a lot of absent fathers. Unfortunately, many times we judge God’s Love comparing it to human love. We decide that God doesn’t love us based on our inability to be perfect which is simply not true. When we accept the Love of God as our own and begin to build a relationship with Him, the relationship or lack thereof that we have with others will change.

John 14:1-3 (NLT)
Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me. There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am.


Human beings are guilty of putting unrealistic expectations on natural love. Our sin makes us imperfect and therefore incapable of loving anyone with such commitment. We try and fail all the time. God has more than enough love, grace and mercy to love us perfectly forever. He knows us inside and out. The more than enough we experience in God begins with His Love but then applies to everything else in our life. There is more than enough of everything once we allow God to take over each area. The only limitation is our faith and inability to trust the Lord to be more than enough.

How does this apply to fatherhood? Well, fatherhood is one of first and primary relationships in life. It comes with a big title that creates a larger than life image and great responsibility which few are prepared to truly take on. I am only a mom but I know the devastation that I felt each time I let my children down, or did not make the right choice. I can only imagine that a father would feel the same way. I have watched others put unworthy dads on pedestals saving a place for their return and my heart aches that their expectation is yet to be fulfilled. Involved, active and committed parents will tell you that our children are the greatest blessing in our life. However, everyone makes mistakes in relationships all of them. We must rely on the same love, grace and mercy that we have been given by our Heavenly Father to have successful relationships on earth. God accepts our imperfections and loves us anyway. When we trust God for all the love we need, affirmation, affection, approval, provision and depend solely on Him then we can accept the love and care that we receive from others without the hurt and disappointment of their weakness or shortcomings. God is more than enough. His Love is more than enough. We have all we need in His Presence so we are free to love others without unrealistic expectations including our earthly fathers.

Luke 15:20-24 (MSG)

“When he was still a long way off, his father saw him. His heart pounding, he ran out, embraced him, and kissed him. The son started his speech: ‘Father, I’ve sinned against God, I’ve sinned before you; I don’t deserve to be called your son ever again.’  “But the father wasn’t listening. He was calling to the servants, ‘Quick. Bring a clean set of clothes and dress him. Put the family ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Then get a grain-fed heifer and roast it. We’re going to feast! We’re going to have a wonderful time! My son is here—given up for dead and now alive! Given up for lost and now found!’ And they began to have a wonderful time.

Nowhere in the account of the prodigal son does the story talk about what “kind” of father the dad was. We don’t know what kind of life that he lived other than he was obviously prosperous but I promise you that he was not perfect. When his son could be seen dragging up the road headed for home, the father didn’t care about the past. He didn’t care what he had done or how far he had fallen. He just wanted the boy home. He loved the boy and wanted to provide for him and be with him always. Now this is not a parable about earthly relationships but the way that God loves us. Jesus was trying to relay the intensity of God’s Love to the people. Forget what you have done. Stop living in the past. Just step into My Presence, that’s what God was saying. I want to shower love, grace, goodness, and favor on you.

The world is filled with imperfect fathers. In fact, every single man that ever fathered a child is a sinner. The child that he produced sinful, too. We cannot escape our weakness and shortcomings as people – therefore relationships will always be laborious for us. But if we fall in love with God as our Father and depend on Him to fulfill every longing, want, need and desire in our life – we will have successful relationships in all areas of life because we have appropriate expectations of other people. Our relationship with Jesus Christ allows us to live in the Presence of our Father God and enjoy every single benefit of His Children allowing us to freely love others without expecting anything in return. The father in the story didn’t care about anything but celebrating his child’s return. It was the son who harbored guilt, shame and anxiety about the reunion. Stop that right now in the Name of Jesus! God is calling you closer today. He wants you to come closer to Him than ever before on this Father’s Day so that He can bless every other relationship that you have in this world even with your earthly father.

John 14:25-28 (MSG)

 “I’m telling you these things while I’m still living with you. The Friend, the Holy Spirit whom the Father will send at my request, will make everything plain to you. He will remind you of all the things I have told you. I’m leaving you well and whole. That’s my parting gift to you. Peace. I don’t leave you the way you’re used to being left—feeling abandoned, bereft. So don’t be upset. Don’t be distraught. You’ve heard me tell you, ‘I’m going away, and I’m coming back.’ If you loved me, you would be glad that I’m on my way to the Father because the Father is the goal and purpose of my life.

I have been looking for a picture for my Father’s Day post to my husband and my own father today. I found a picture from our daughter’s recent wedding. All I could think looking at this picture was “look what the Lord has done.” We started out a mangled mess and God has made a beautiful mess out of us. We are not perfect not a single one, but I see three fathers in the picture – my father, my brother and of course my own handsome husband. I see the future in my sons, nephews and son-in-law who love God and will raise their children to love the Lord like they do. We all had good intentions that fell far short. We all wanted to be good people but lost some battles with sin. But God opened His Arms and said, “Come closer.” We did. Now we have this beautiful family.

Dads if you are reading this today – thank you for loving God and empowering your family. You have partnered with the Holy Spirit so even when you think you have blown it God makes good on every single detail based on His Love. There are a lot of questionable fathers in the Word of God. Abraham sent away one son and almost sacrificed another. Jacob didn’t recognize the animosity among his own children or depth of bitterness growing there so he did not protect Joseph.  What about Noah? He was a drunk. How about David? His son died because of his sin. See nobody’s perfect yet these men were some of God’s Favorites even though they were not perfect. We need a perfect Father today. We have one His Name is God and Jesus will show us the way to Him! He is more than enough father for all of us so we can have healthy and productive relationships in life.

I love my dad. I will call Him and tell him just that today. But before I do, I have said thank you to the one who made this Father’s Day perfect no matter how it turns out. He has taken something truly broken and over the last few decades made a beautiful and loving family. I will celebrate my perfect father today. I know that I am His Favorite!

I John 3:1 (NLT)

See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!

Let’s Incorporate – A Devotion

Joel 2:28-32 (NKJV)

“And it shall come to pass afterward that I will pour out My Spirit on all flesh; your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions. And also on My menservants and on My maidservants I will pour out My Spirit in those days. And I will show wonders in the heavens and in the earth: blood and fire and pillars of smoke. The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before the coming of the great and awesome day of the LORD. And it shall come to pass that whoever calls on the name of the LORD shall be saved.”

“And it shall come to pass…” As a Christian and Believer of Jesus Christ, these words should bring great excitement when God performs that which He says that He would in the life of his People. God’s Promises are rich for those who live by faith and are called according to His Name. There is a powerful move of God sweeping the youth of this age. Kids seeking the reality of God yet casting off the religion and tradition of former generations with loud worship, radical obedience and engaging prayer they head to the frontline of battle as they war to have all that God has promised them. In the same churches reside the mature generations who have lived past the impulsivity and passion of youth to become upstanding adults in the community. Clothed with dignity and respect, they approach the Throne of God with awe and reverence as through life they have arrived here many times in repentance. With faith that has been tested by endurance and with the patience that only comes with experience, they wait on the Lord almost becoming sedate. Their roles in life often does not allow for dreaming but must remain rooted and grounded in reality in order to provide for their families and carry the burden of responsibility placed squarely on their shoulders. Failures have molded these adults to be careful and comprehensive people who no longer can live a carefree life. Their minds must remain focused on reality. Their worship is serious and obedience is routine. Prayer is a private matter between them and God. Both groups peacefully inhabit the buildings we call church with a widening gap between them. They are longing and crying out for the same thing in very different ways. Jesus is their desire. His Spirit being poured out is what they crave. What is stopping this mighty move of God in the church?

The gap between generations has widened throughout the years as the church that is designed to unite both the family of God and a natural family relationship has unintentionally separated it instead. From birth, nurseries welcome little ones so that parents can attend worship services while order in the sanctuary is peacefully maintained. These little people grow and wander to children’s church and learn about the people of the Bible and foundational message of Jesus Christ. Many will receive the Lord in this place without their parents ever knowing. With great enthusiasm, they are then graduated to the hallowed halls of the youth ministry where they learn freedom of speech for God as they are encouraged to live their faith out loud and leave a mark on this planet for Jesus Christ. They are taught to pray with fervency and worship without restriction. After years in this place of being pumped for release into a lost and dying world to ignite a flame of passion and love for Jesus Christ they are released into the world and the sanctuary of their church often to find that church the way they have known it is not what they thought it would be. In a quiet sanctuary full of mature people, they become disenchanted and disengaged but what appears to be their future in the Lord.

In the passage from Joel, God describes a great outpouring of His Spirit on His People. It is designed to flow through all generations both young and old. In this move of God, there will be dreams and visions. Prophecy will occur. Every person will be affected by the Presence of God. So, I wonder what God is waiting for. Have our churches become molded after society where moms and dads must provide care for their children in the midst of life while they head to work? Has the gap between generations been widened by the segregation of ages? Who says that there is no room for radical young people in the refined altars of the sanctuary and what bars the doors of the youth rooms from inquiring people who seek the outpouring experienced in their pursuit of God? Until the doors are removed from inside the church and the generations open-mindedly mingle amongst themselves, I believe God withholds His Spirit from our midst. We are the Family of God. The relationships of families are vitally important to the successful flow of God’s Spirit for it is part of His Design. God will not move outside of His Creation. For people to experience a full manifestation of all God has promised for His People requires the uniting of all generations. He has purposed it to be this way. The infectious enthusiasm of young Christians will ignite passion in mature Believers while their maturity will teach their kids whether biological or spiritual to become grounded in the Word. It will all work together to produce a burning church full of fire, passion and zeal for the Lord. This is when God’s Spirit will be fully poured out and people will be saved. It will be an age of signs and wonders as we operate according to God’s Will and not continue in this deadly trend of division.

Romans 8:14-17 (NKJV)

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him, that we may also be glorified together.


When was the last time your family worshiped together? Not in the same church, but in each other’s midst. Unity of His People moves the heart of God. Just because you may not have children or know many young people does not exempt one from the responsibilities and privilege of growing with them in unity. Read Titus 2:1-8 for God’s mandate to use our maturity to teach and instruct our young people. To bridge this gap requires action on the part of the church. We must travel across the lines divided and permeate the four walls of the House of Worship until there is a tightly intertwined relationship between all generations. God has placed precious promises and secrets within individual hearts to be shared corporately. Let’s incorporate! Pray that the gap between the generations will close and become bonded in Jesus Name. Seek the Lord for His Direction on how you can make this occur personally and in your church. God is holding His Spirit in great anticipation that His People will come together!  Then rejoice for “it shall come to pass…”

Planning the Perfect Christmas Celebration – A Devotion

Colossians 3:12-15 (Message)

So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ—the Message—have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way.

As weeks and months of planning come to an end and the Christmas celebration nears its consummation, a few tips from the Guest of Honor – Jesus Christ for the perfect Christmas gathering. Simple tips to live by all year through but since we have decided to make such a fuss about this particular occasion should certainly not be forgotten during our well-planned and over-produced occasion. From God’s Word, we will answer some frequently asked questions and find some helpful ideas to insure a peaceful and joyous celebration fit for the King.

What to wear is at the top of every girl’s list and of the utmost priority when preparing for any celebration including Christmas. After careful consultation and inquiry into the nature of an event, a decision must be made concerning the appropriate outfit for the occasion from head to toe. This notion often results in hours of shopping and careful dieting to achieve just the right look and make a good impression on other party attendees and influential people of course. May I suggest that you choose a wardrobe of compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, and discipline to suit your new life of Love in Jesus Christ? Compassion for those who are hurting this season, kindness for those who choose to be unkind under the burden of stress and anxiety, humility to allow others to go first, quiet strength strong enough to bite your tongue rather than be right and discipline enough to continue all of the above in the midst of stirring personalities and contradictory individuals. Even-tempered people who choose not to be insulted but encouraging who are fine with second place which is not highly fashionable but will be greatly rewarded! Quick forgiveness is a must-have to complete this ensemble. Jesus will be your example and He is flattered when His Children recreate His Design so knock yourself out and be forgiving – it will be a holiday hit with the Guest of Honor! Accessorize your life with love. Go all out you can never have too much love! Drape your life in the Love of God and extend it to others! In fact, you can wear love day or night, on any occasion. It should be a staple that you never leave home without. Follow these tips and you will be ready for any holiday gathering in fact you will be ready to live a life pleasing to Jesus wherever you go!

Need some new decorating ideas to spruce up your home and make it more inviting to guests? Try peace. It is simple and quite inexpensive as it is absolutely free. You can find it in the Presence of God. Pray over your home and invite the Holy Spirit to deck the halls with the Peace of God as you prepare to receive family and friends this Christmas. It never goes out of style. You can choose to leave it up year round with just occasional maintenance such as prayer, worship and praise. Many people who you know and love are searching for peace this holiday season and you have the answer – Jesus Christ. Why not work on to-go packs for your friends by praying with them and sharing the Good News of Jesus Christ before they depart! It will create the perfect atmosphere for your Christmas celebration. You will love it so much that you just may decide to maintain it all year through.

What can you give someone who has everything? Well, there is only One who I know who lacks nothing and that is the Lord. Why not give Him thankfulness this Christmas? The Lord deserves our thankfulness not so much for what He has done or will do, but just for who He is. In a season marked by materialism, create a new trend of thankfulness. Thank God for all that He has done for you! Thank God for Jesus Christ without whom you would have no hope! Thank God for His Faithfulness, Love, Protection, Strength, Mercy, Holiness – this could go on and on! It is the only gift we really have to give Him. A life of thankfulness results in consecration, holiness and obedience. You just cannot help it! God is that Good!

How to avoid holiday burnout? Let the Word of God have run of your life. Take your busy schedule, gift list, burdens, stresses, everything that is attempting to take over your life and steal your joy and place it at the feet of Jesus Christ. Allow the Lord to direct your planning and preparations. He will instruct you. “Words, actions, whatever” when directed by the Lord will result in the perfect Christmas celebration besides its His Party anyway. If it does not result in glorifying Jesus – what’s the point? Worship the King of Kings and Lord of Lords while He carefully orchestrates the plans and schedules that are overrunning your life. “No” is not a bad word, but a necessary one or you will miss the wonder of Christmas altogether. Let the Lord plan your gathering and giving this year.

John 3:16 (NLT)

“For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.


I leave you with this final tip for planning the perfect Christmas. Keep it simple. God’s love though it seems complex sometimes, is just that simple. God loved us so much that He sent His Son so that we could all share eternity together! Let the celebration begin!